A Return to Writing Includes Searching For Balance

Searching for Balance

I’ve returned to writing and the hectic pace I’ve had in the past. I have something “writerly” planned for nearly every weekend in October. November marks NaNoWriMo so that month is full and also begins the holiday season. In the meantime, I am deep in the middle of a marketing class.


I’m tired already.

And, therein lies the search for balance.

It would be easy for me to look at my plans for the next several months and let my anxiety overwhelm me. It’s happened before, hence the unexpected hiatus from writing.

Unfortunately, keeping myself from being overwhelmed is often on my mind as I strive for balance in my life.

Tips for Balance

Here are some thoughts that have kept me going in the past and I hope are still helpful during this especially busy time.

1. Do the next thing. This one takes a bit of explanation. When I’m feeling overwhelmed I tend to look at the big picture rather than the small bites of life. That is where doing the next thing comes in. If the next thing that needs to happen in your life is to make the bed or do the dishes or make lunch, do that. Life happens in small moments and getting something done, even for that moment, will have a positive impact on your peace of mind.

2. Stick to your ritual. Every writer I know has a ritual that has evolved over time. My tends to follow the same things each day. I make coffee, light a candle, and write morning pages. Those three pages each morning are my warm up. Once those are complete I write. During normal times (i.e. not NaNoWriMo) my goal is 500 words and in November that bumps up to 2000 words each day. If you have other rituals, stick to those.

3. Keep your downtime. For me, downtime is crucial as too much to do and lots of chaos creates an unbalanced me. I have a building where I can escape but even there, if things are too noisy, I will struggle. Even if the chaos is positive, like having my grand babies over, it still creates stress in me and I need to deal with it.

A Final Thought

One last thing that I need to remember – Be Gentle With Myself! There is always tomorrow.

I am sure there are more ways to find balance during the busy times but having too many things to think about, again, even if they are positive, creates a struggle.


Finding Balance

balance-110850_1280This year, I chose balance as my word to focus on. As the months go by, I’m discovering just how difficult that word is.

I believe my goal was to keep in balance my moderately stressful work life and home life, all while working on my writing. When I made this goal I was looking forward to a blogging class, knowing that I would be ramping up my writing. I didn’t realize just how hard it would be to find.

Its been a struggle for the past several months to keep things in perspective and balanced.

How does one find balance in life? I wonder if balance can be maintained.

I’m reminded of the serenity prayer:

To accept the things I cannot change
To change the things I can
The wisdom to know the difference.

If I were to follow this, then those things in my life that cannot be changed must be accepted. For instance, work is and will always have stress. I cannot change that, however, I can change my response to it. I can also work in such a way that I reduce the stress. That means not getting behind in my paperwork, which is a constant battle and stress. By changing this one thing I am able to keep things down to a dull roar. Its hard to work with the stacks of paperwork that come with my life hanging over my head. This is where the wisdom comes in.

The things at home that cannot be changed must be endured. I would love to say that since it is my home I am able to change what needs to be changed. After all, it is my house and I have some control over this. Except this isn’t the reality. There are things I cannot change. Now, that I’ve accepted this, the only thing that can change is me. I have to decide how to handle those things. This is what I actually have control of. I forget this sometimes. Along with this acceptance comes wisdom.

Finding balance in my writing is another conundrum. What must I accept that cannot be changed or that I have no control over? This is probably the area in my life where I have the most control. I have the control to get out of bed during the early hours of morning to meet my goal of 500 words daily. I have control over what gets written in those words. I decide which area to work, though I think there may be too many. The things I don’t have control over are people’s responses to my work. Yeah, that is a tough one. I can accept this one though, only because I must.

Finding true balance isn’t a about reaching a place and staying there. Its about the realization that balance isn’t about perfection. It is about riding the ebb and flow of life. Things are constantly moving and changing, my response to those changes is where the balance comes in.

How to you find balance in your life?